Here’s the Thing…
Whether you’re in a new relationship, you’re engaged, or you’ve been married for decades… You’ve probably got two major problems.
First: The Ugly Truth about Your “Romantic Programming”…
If any of the descriptions above apply to you, then you’re not alone… and it’s not your fault.
In fact, men and women have been programmed to create screwed-up love lives… We have “relationship mindsets” full of false beliefs and faulty relationship blueprints that make for lousy foundations…
Put the love challenges and the unconscious blueprints together and you know why so many give up on love…because it’s easier to stay alone or just be friends and roommates.
Thanks to popular media and culture, the last 50 years have been completely confusing and PAINFUL when it comes to love and relationships.
Men in our culture have been told to be sensitive, soft, and emotional.
Yes… those are great qualities in a man, as long as they NEVER replace his presence, potency, and purpose.
Simultaneously, women learned to be strong, powerful, and never show vulnerability or weakness.
Again, these are fantastic qualities, but they leave many women exhausted, lonely, and longing…wondering, “What happened to all the great men?”
The truth is, we haven’t been taught how to design and create conscious and enlightened relationships. That’s why we’ve all tried and failed so many times. That’s why we start settling for less than what we really want in love.
Second: No One Offered you a Degree in Romance… Not Even a Class!
There’s a relationship curriculum you never heard about. You had the textbooks, lectures, and exams for how cells multiply and how to do algebra… and on WWII history… but there are no degrees in relating… not even a class.
Here’s a bit of reality…
Men and women want to know how to attract and enjoy hot and happy love, but the problem isn’t so much the love but the relating that goes with it…
What do you do if the spark is fizzling instead of sizzling? What do you do if there’s more conflict than connection? What if you can’t remember the last time you made love?
How do you handle the inevitable feelings of being unsupported or even undesired while in a relationship?
What do you do when your needs or desires conflict?
What do you do when your values and visions conflict… while you are still dating, or worse yet, after years of marriage?
The success of any relationship, any marriage, depends wholly on how YOU are showing up and how YOU are relating to the other person.
Couples you’ve probably been relating with each other for a long time… the question is how well?
I know you’re doing your darndest to have love work… to find your “one”… to be happy and in love.
It’s truly sad. It’s not until we’ve struggled or even failed at love … that we wonder why it’s so hard. Then we wonder whether it’s worth it… and consider giving up…
Don’t give up…
you just need a little education.
The good news?
If You’re Here, You’re Ready…